One might suspect that breathing and love would be intimately and inescapably connected.. We must “love to breathe” for the alternative is not quite acceptable – not breathing that is! As a lover who takes our entire attention for long moments at a time – are we that attentive with our breath?
Let’s pretend for a moment that our beloved is named “Breath”. How would our present relationship with our breathing change? If Breath became shallow and contracted we might take some moments to notice and then soften shoulders, neck, facial muscles and belly/pelvis so that Breath could expand, relax and feel our love.
In those moments when Breath leaves us all together for moments at a time, we might decide to invite Breath out for a walk, run, or a dance around the room embracing every inhale and exhale making certain that Breath feels they are the most important part of our life.
When Breath becomes all out of sorts coming and going in short bursts and irregular rhythms, we might offer a gentle touch or massage, or share laughter to soothe the “savage beast” and open Breath back again to the natural innate rhythm that Breath prefers to live within and where your relationship thrives.
It may be sort of a challenge to have Breath as a lover since you cannot see Breath, nor touch Breath, but as Helen Keller says in the quote above – the most beautiful things must be felt in the heart.
Now, take a few more moments to read the answers that some very young children have given when asked the question – What is Love? Out of the mouths of babes….
What Is Love? Some Really Smart Kids May Have The Answer
*“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” – Billy, age 4
*“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” – Karl, age 5
*“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” – Chrissy, age 6
*“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” – Terri, age 4
*“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” – Danny, age 7
*“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.” – Emily, age 8
*“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.” – Bobby, age 7
*“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,” – Nikka, age 6
*“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” – Noelle, age 7
*“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” – Tommy, age 6
*“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.” – Cindy, age 8
*“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” – Clare, age 6
*“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” – Elaine, age 5
*“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt.” – Chris, age 7
*“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” – Lauren, age 4
*“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.” – Rebecca, age 8
*“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” – Karen, age 7
*“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” – Jessica, age 8
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